This is a deeply penetrating post from The Gospel Coalition by author Ken Sande:
"Many leaders conceal a proud attitude under a demeanor of humility, which is not the same as actual humility. One of the many evidences of actual humility is the inclination to 'consider others better than yourself,' which results in valuing their thoughts and interests as highly as your own (Phil. 2:3-4). A closely related evidence of humility is to sincerely welcome critique and correction, no matter who brings the 'observation' (Prov. 13:10, 17:10). Therefore, wise leaders regularly meditate and pray about the 'pride and humility' passages in Scripture (see Prov. 11:2, 19:20; Isa. 66:3; 1 Pet. 5:5-6), asking God to help them put off self-confidence, pride, and every hint of arrogance, and to put on a humility that genuinely welcomes questions, suggestions, criticism, and anything else that might aid us in the process of presenting ourselves before God as empty vessels, so that we might be utterly dependent on and fulfilled in Him, which is the essence of true humility."
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justintaylor/2009/09/22/the-demeanor-of-humility-vs-actual-humility/
"Many leaders conceal a proud attitude under a demeanor of humility, which is not the same as actual humility. One of the many evidences of actual humility is the inclination to 'consider others better than yourself,' which results in valuing their thoughts and interests as highly as your own (Phil. 2:3-4). A closely related evidence of humility is to sincerely welcome critique and correction, no matter who brings the 'observation' (Prov. 13:10, 17:10). Therefore, wise leaders regularly meditate and pray about the 'pride and humility' passages in Scripture (see Prov. 11:2, 19:20; Isa. 66:3; 1 Pet. 5:5-6), asking God to help them put off self-confidence, pride, and every hint of arrogance, and to put on a humility that genuinely welcomes questions, suggestions, criticism, and anything else that might aid us in the process of presenting ourselves before God as empty vessels, so that we might be utterly dependent on and fulfilled in Him, which is the essence of true humility."
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justintaylor/2009/09/22/the-demeanor-of-humility-vs-actual-humility/