Saturday, November 14, 2009

Does Egalitarianism Imperil The Gospel?

Brothers,
Please take a few moments and listen carefully to C. J. Mahaney of Sovereign Grace Ministries. He reminds us that Biblical Manhood and Womanhood is not a secondary issue for Pastors and strongly declares that confusion on the issue threatens the Gospel. I whole heartily concur. [rgh]

Click to listen: http://www.cbmw.org/Blog/Posts/Mahaney-Potential-Peril-for-the-Gospel

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Five Questions Leaders Should Ask

Perry Noble has been posting some great leadership principles that are reflective of seasoned experience and accumulated wisdom. May we be wise enough to heed his good counsel. Hopefully, you will recognize a few of these from our Redeemed Community days. [rgh]

One of the things I have learned as a leader over the past few years is that leaders do NOT always have the answer…so…we need to learn how to ask questions. Here are five that have helped me out in my journey so far…

#1 – “What Do You Think?”

Whenever someone brings a problem to my attention and wants to know how to handle it…I always ask them this question before I offer what I may think is a solution. (If you always have to be the one to solve problems…your church is in BIG trouble!).

The reason for asking this question is…I want to see if the person who brought the problem to me is a leader or not. You see, if he/she is a leader….then they have already figured out the solution that needs to be put into place.

If you ask this question to a person often…and they never have an answer for what they think should be done…then most likely you don’t have a leader.

A leader is BEGGING for his/her opinion to be heard…and this question can allow some unbelievable leadership potential to be unleashed in your organization!

#2 – “When Do You Need An Answer?”

Often times leaders will ask for your opinion/advice/permission when it comes to something in their area. Unfortunately, I have made the mistake many times of telling someone I would get back with them and not understanding the urgency of their request for some input.

So…I’ve learned that when someone seeks my advice one of the BEST things I can do is ask them when they need an answer…that tells me whether or not I have time to think about it…or if I need to immediately seek the Holy Spirit’s help and just give them the thought that He brings to mind.

#3 – “How Would BLANK Handle This Situation?”

Often times as leaders we get so emotionally tied to a situation that it clouds our ability to make the right decision. SO…a few years ago whenever I was faced with a very emotional BUT necessary decision I would ask, “If Andy Stanley or Craig Groeschel were staring at this situation and had to make a decision…what would they do?” (Or you could say – WWAD or WWCD!)

Why Andy and Craig…because they are two leaders who I believe God is using to change the world and make a difference. They have both mentored me and I highly respect them both as men of God and as pastors/leaders.

I can honestly say that there have been times that I’ve been stuck and this question has brought clarity to the situation.
SO…pick a leader you know and admire…and put their name in the blank.


#4 – “Who/What Area Will Be The Most Impacted By This Decision?”

The reason for this question is simple…no matter how your leadership process is set up…if someone on your staff (or an entire area) is going to be impacted by the decision that is made…then that someone (or a rep from that area) needs to be included in the decision making process.

If people are more involved in the decision making process…it is WAY easier for them to buy in.

#5 – “How Many Times Have We Dealt With This Issue?”

I saw a sign the other day that said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get different results.”

When a leadership team has to continually wrestle with the same issue…continually makes the same decision…constantly experiences the same frustration and then goes through the cycle again…insanity has began to reign supreme.

If I just described your leadership meetings…then SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE. What? I’m not sure…but I am sure that the way you’ve been trying to handle it isn’t working…so something new needs to be embraced.

http://www.perrynoble.com/2009/11/10/five-questions-that-leaders-should-ask/

Sunday, November 8, 2009

How Does Adultery Happen?

"It begins in a variety of places--at church or at work, with a neighbor or with a friend--but it always starts with walls and windows.

This is what I mean: anytime you are talking with a person of the opposite sex, and you start to veer into inappropriate conversational territory, what happens is that you open up a window with them. And every time you open up a window with someone of the opposite sex, you build a wall between you and your spouse."

Read the full article by Jimmy Evans :
http://www.marriagetoday.org/site/PageServer?pagename=MessageViewer&em_id=11581.0&printer_friendly=1

Monday, November 2, 2009

Leadership Reality Check!

The Barna study interviewed 1,736 individuals who qualified as leaders. Those individuals were then evaluated in relation to 15 core leadership competencies. The results indicated that the three competencies which leaders struggle with the most all relate to developing the tools needed to succeed.

Specifically, leaders are most likely to have difficulties developing the tangible resources (e.g., funds, personnel, facilities) needed to accomplish plans; developing the skills of other leaders to facilitate more effective organizational performance; and developing the systems required to efficiently complete the tasks at hand. Each of those dimensions encompasses a variety of tasks and efforts.

According to the research, the specific behaviors that leaders do most poorly include:

>Negotiating agreements that maximize benefits at minimal cost.
>Attracting new resources to the organization – especially human and financial capital.
>Developing and implementing individualized developmental plans for emerging leaders.
>Nurturing robust relationships with existing colleagues, demonstrating sufficient care and attention to their needs.

The research also discovered that leaders sometimes perceive themselves to be more effective at specific aspects of leading than their performance suggests.

...Barna noted:

“Many of the master leaders concurred that if you are called by God to lead and you have the quality of character that motivates people to follow you, you can succeed because the competencies required can be learned,” he commented.

“Toward that end, it is invaluable to have one or more proven leaders who take you under their wing and systematically coach you in the kinds of skills you need.”


http://www.barna.org/barna-update/article/17-leadership/319-study-of-leaders-identifies-their-weaknesses

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Hear! Hear!

This lady is being very Christlike in her "friend of sinners" approach. Our "hit and run" tactic is certainly non-relational. We should all wish we had a group of sinners willing to sit and talk regularly with us as was done with Jesus and is being done with this ministry leader! Personally convicting isn't it.
[RGH]


When a Beer Separates You From God

"I want the people who don’t want to go to church, those who are wounded and broken, especially from religion. I want to reach out to the person who believes a beer separates them from God. … Jesus said what comes out of the heart is more defiling than what goes into the mouth. … I love [people] where they are at rather than where they are supposed to be. There’s nobody I refuse to fellowship with. I’d much rather hang out with someone who is broken than someone who thinks they don’t have any need. Religion doesn’t always do that."

—Beloit, Wis., ministry leader Kathy Price, on meeting at a local bar with a "non-church" crowd every Sunday to talk about Jesus over cocktails, cigarettes and chicken wings. After learning about Catholic Saint Katherine of Sienna, a fellow pub preacher in the 14th century, Price said she felt impressed by the Holy Spirit to begin reaching out to regulars in bars and launched The Red Door ministry. [beloitdailynews.com, 10/19/09]


http://www.ministrytodaymag.com/index.php/ministry-news/65-news-main/18689-when-a-beer-separates-you-from-god

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Set The Example!

Perry Noble's Worship Leader wrote the following :

Be a person worthy of authority. Let me put it this way: if you are lazy, expect laziness from your staff. If you aren’t passionately in love with God, expect moral failure and disunity in your staff. Perry won’t broadcast this, but ever since I have known him, he gets up at 5am or earlier, spends an hour or two with God, and then spends hour or two in the gym. And then he hits the office. So, when I go into a meeting and he tells me something i don’t really agree with, I keep my mouth shut and I listen before I say anything in response; I know he walks with God and I have tremendous respect for that. It’s much easier to follow a leader who is more disciplined than you. If you want a humble staff, be humble. If you want a staff that is anything… you must be that, first. your staff will reflect your own character. So, if your staff is lazy, doesn’t value excellence, or is disconnected from culture, look no further than your own mirror for the reason why. Everything rises and falls on leadership. Be a Proverbs 15:33 leader.

http://www.perrynoble.com/2007/09/06/seven-things-worship-leaders-wished-their-senior-pastor-knew/

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Thanks for your time!

A young man learns what's most important in life from the 'ole guy next door.

It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way. In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams. There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him. Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days. "Jack, did you hear me?" "Oh, sorry, Mom, Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said.

"Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him."I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said. "You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said. "He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important...Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said. As busy as Jack was, he kept his word. He caught the next flight to his hometown.

Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away. The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time. Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture....Jack stopped suddenly. "What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked. "The box is gone," he said. "What box?" Mom asked. "There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said. It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it. "Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox. "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read. Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. Harold Belser," it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside. "Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch. Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved: "Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser." "The thing he valued most was...my time?" Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked. "I need some time to spend with my son," he said. "Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!"

To all my ministry friends: "Thanks For Your Time!"

Richard G. Hanner